So, last week I wrote a blog “The minefield of a counter offer and why NOT to take it!!!” which has already received nearly 4,000 views.
The message was don’t take a counter offer, which is easier said than done – this is how to avoid one in the first place!
Preparing for resignation:
- Expect mixed emotions – sadness, guilt and feelings of disloyalty, these are all perfectly normal.
- Remember the excitement about your new position – new people, new opportunities, new challenges – keep that in mind as you go through the process.
- Prepare yourself and you will not be taken off guard.
When to do it
- It is helpful to choose a “business as usual” busy time that best avoids uncomfortable or awkward situations.
How to do it
Here’s why you should always resign in writing, not verbally.
- Because you mean it and it’s not an invitation to “chat” which can become stressful and lead to well meaning, unintentional but also unwelcome pressure.
- Pushing that white envelope across the table with carefully worded sentences sets the right professional tone for a smooth transition out.
The art of deflection
- Any current employer will naturally want to seek information
- Avoid detailed information disclosure
- Keep all bridges positively intact
- Role play at deflecting answers
- Answer in a way that demonstrates the decision is already made and the commitment will be followed through
- Always return the conversation to the “decision made”
- If pressed – why are opinions so important?
Managing employer tactics
- Be mentally prepared - forewarned is forearmed
- Love-ins and everyone dropping by
- Re-hashed organisation charts - “we were about to tell you..”
- New position - “how about it?”
- Old mentors “you can’t possibly leave!”
- Emotional pull - “do this one thing for me personally”
- Counter offers - cold hard cash is often next year’s pay rise.
THE RESIGNATION MEETING - EXAMPLE
John, I’ve committed myself to joining another organisation and would like to commence at the earliest opportunity. Here is my letter of resignation, and I would like to discuss how we can work together to make it a smooth and swift transition.
EXAMPLE RESIGNATION LETTER
Please accept this letter as my formal resignation and x months’ notice with my final day being xxx.
I am grateful for the success we have been able to achieve together at [company name], but I have now made a firm commitment to joining another organisation.
Please note that I intend to work with you to complete any outstanding work during my notice period in order to make my resignation as smooth as possible.
I am eager to leave on a positive note and look forward to discussing with you how to accomplish this.